“You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.”
As you probably know, this is the statement that Morpheus makes to Neo during their first conversation in “The Matrix”. Did you also know that you may have this conversation with yourself many times a day? The power to choose is available to all but not all accept the responsibility.
My goal is to be descriptive and not prescriptive so here are some interesting resources that you can choose to investigate (red pill) or ignore (blue pill)…the choice is yours.
- Locus of Control (this sums it up)
- Paul Jun provided us with Why Self-Awareness Is the Secret Weapon for Habit Change and perfectly summarizes why being self-aware is the very foundation of behavior change and also offers thoughts on how we might achieve it.
- If you would like a primer on how to identify lack of self-awareness, then here is 7 Signs You’re Not as Self-Aware as You Think by Steve Tobak which will quickly let you know just how far off base you might be.
- If you really want to wade into the deep end of the pool, there is The Importance of Self-Awareness, and How to Become More Self Aware by Thorin Klosowski which includes a great TED talk from Daniel Kahneman (author of “Thinking, Fast and Slow”) as well as some insights to “double-loop learning” as well.
- This one is a bit trickier and definitely falls into the “Psychology 101” area but still one of the foundational stones required to be successful. While similar to “locus of control”, it is more about we see ourselves versus how we see the world at large. This is about our believe in our own ability to achieve and accomplish anything and it impacts us all in a fundamental way. See what Albert Bandura from Stanford University has to say about Self Efficacy and then decide for yourself.
- If that is too heavy you can take a look at 4 Ways to Develop Self-Efficacy Beliefs (Self-Esteem or Confidence) as it provides more of a 10,000 foot view of the topic.
- Ladder of Inference
- Brace yourself for this one because once you know about it, there is no turning back…don’t say I didn’t warn you! Here is a great (and brief) TED-Ed video (by Trevor Maber) that explains how the “ladder” and how we short-circuit it on a daily basis.
- If you like reading, then here is The Ladder of Inference (an excerpt from The Fifth Discipline Fieldbook)
You now bear the burden of “knowing”and you can’t go back, no matter how challenging it might be. It can be overwhelming to acknowledge that you can change your own behavior and, in turn, change other’s as well. We all operate in the same complex adaptive system so that means that every “agent’s” action causes ripples in the ecosystem and we never really know how others will react because we are not in control (that is whole other post in itself).
So which pill will it be?